Cash, Money…
Dear Ask a Ho
what do you charge when working as a hooker?
for things like blow jobs etc. what is the different pricing?
- Intrigued
Well intrigued,
This is the question I get asked the most often and it’s also unfortunately one I really can’t answer very well.
Well I can, in a way, because your specific question asks what "I" charge when working as a hooker, and what I charge roughly goes like this:
350 bucks an hour for FS* pro-submission
300 hr GFE* escorting
250 hr domination/fetish services with no sex
150 for a blow job
100 for a handjob
Now these donations* are subject to change with such extenuating factors as: what city I’m working in, where I’m working (brothel, independently, strip club, etc), what gender I’m presenting myself to be***, what my body looks like at the moment, what the client wants, how much I like the client or how financially giving they seem, if they’re a regular, how much I need money, how much sleep I’ve had/how much I’m in the mood for all this monkey business, what risk there is to my mental/physical health…etc. So as you can see, these things can change at the drop of a tiny tiny gold hooker hat pin.
Now the question that is behind that question usually is, how much can YOU charge? And I have no idea. I’m not like a bra fitter who can narrow my eyes at you, look you up and down, and be like "men will pay….435 dollars and 95 cents an hour to stick a dick in you". But probably you can get heaps, I mean I charge a lot and I FAIL at a lot of things you would think should be adult entertainer 101 requirements. I can’t shave my legs worth a damn, they are always stubbly, no matter how much time I spend scraping them raw in the shower. I’m chubby but not BBW, I’m covered in weird tattoos, don’t style my hair, and am not particularly sexually skilled** and I still charge what I consider to be ridiculous amounts of money. Chances are you can charge that much, or more! Especially if you want to go to the effort of starting up a website, putting some effort into grooming, buy a lot of sex toys, getting some good photos for advertising, cultivating a mane of flowing locks or hardened pecs or some desirable combination of the two.
Or maybe you’ll charge less because you want lots of work and have a good incall space where you can chill out eating burritos and watching Americas Next Top Model. Johns come by and you can see a bunch in a day, that become regulars because it’s affordable, and not have to haggle over elaborate scenes or prices. That works for lots of people as well. I personally am a little bit work repelled, and set my prices on the higher side so that I don’t have to work often, just hard.
In any case
hooking = better money than any other job that doesn’t require 8+ years of formal schooling, often more than ones that do.
Fiscally yours,
Ho
* FS - Full service - Penis in Vagina/Anus
GFE - Girl Friend Experience - Whoring with a smile! Generally includes making out, FS, some kind of affectionate behavior
Donation - the secret spell word ho’s use to try and convince ourselves we have control over getting busted. Replace donation with payment. Payment for legitimate services rendered, or about to be rendered on your ass.
**Which is not to say I’m not a fantastic cock sucker and creative and a good communicator in bed, just that I think most people probably have sexual skills roughly equal to mine in different ways. But I’m not audrey horne , I can’t knot a cherry stem with my tongue.
***The gender payment hierarchy of the sex world is generally: men make the least, ciswomen middle, transwomen the most.
Hi! You left a comment on my blog about Prop K–I would be more than happy to post about it! I can do my own research, but any info/talking points/ official statements from orgs you want to send my way would be awesome!
Keep up the great work!
Comment by telephone talk — September 8, 2008 @ 11:17 pm
Hello darling!
This project of yours is absolutely fabulous! I was thinking more about the gender hierarchy of payment and while I agree that Transwomen are at the top, I am wondering about the placement of cismen and ciswomen (cissies, if you will). In my experience, I have seen faggots making more money per call than ciswomen, but they don’t make as many calls, so overall they don’t make as much, maybe. I have also seen that their isn’t nearly as much stigma applied to faggots who turn tricks, as ciswomen, I am wondering if that would have anything to do with those numbers? I also am basing almost everything I know about what I have seen down here in the deep south, so I am sure things are at least slightly different.
Love,
TSF
Comment by This Southern Faggot — November 2, 2009 @ 10:35 pm
Hi TSF - I’m so sorry, I totally dropped the ball on this website and checked it this month for the first time in 3 months because I want to start writing on it again!
I’ve kind of revised my ideas on payment structure. It seems as if the median income for sex work of cis women is probably higher than it is for trans women (who usually get paid A LOT or very little, but rarely mid range). It’s interesting that you’ve seen faggots make more money than cis-women. In the SF bay that is definitely not true -in both street based and indoor work cis women make more (in general) than cis and trans guys, that really could be because of the amount of gay sex you can get for free here keeping the price down. I’ve heard - as a trans guy - that if I want to make more money I should go some place like southern california or the midwest for less competition. The stigma being more for ciswomen than faggots is a pretty clear cut case of misogynistic society but I’m not sure if it has to do with price differentials - I think that’s more based on competition defining the market. Thanks for your thought provoking comments though!
Comment by Administrator — November 23, 2009 @ 7:31 pm
Ah yes, I love hearing about sex work in other towns, because it is so completely different than anything I have ever known (aside from reading about big city sex work in books). In the southern town that I live in, we have just a little over 200,000 people and not a single ad in the phone book for male escorts (and only half a page for cis female escorts) and I have only ever heard of one active sex worker, who does not identify as female… and that’s me, which is weird to think about (I don’t identify as male, but generally pretend to be for clients. I have the occasional date with dudes who are looking for a ‘TS/TG’, but that’s pretty rare.). In this town, as far as I can tell, we actually have more Transwomen who I know of, turning tricks, than cis-guys, so competition looks completely different here.
Comment by This Southern Faggot — November 24, 2009 @ 2:15 am